The Cost Of Transactional Self-Worth

Holding a transactional mindset in life is the aspect of resistance that holds many back from reaching their highest potential, and can be the leading cause for many to develop low or non-existent self-worth. It is an important aspect of self to understand how the formulation or development of worth can either become the fire that raises them to embody their dreams in this life or tear them down, leaving them to feel utterly worthless within it.

The True Cost Of Creating Self-Worth Based On Transactions…

There is a high cost in life to holding a transactional mindset; it is the cost of unconditional acceptance for conditions and undermines a person's growth within self and discovery of their true potential. Self-worth is a vital part of the development of self-identity, especially when it relates to how someone feels about themselves in the absence of others and external validation. This leads many who build their worth on the transactions of results and others' validation of their value within life. This, in turn, leads many to feel utterly worthless when others or their results do not constantly validate their value to those around them. Leading to the creation of negative or disempowering negative feedback loops, which in turn alter the internal dialogue or narratives people create around their identity and their self-worth.

This creates a feedback or narrative that, unless I am providing value to others or being valued externally by others, I feel like I have no worth within myself, and I am not good enough in this life. This is the unconscious cost of developing a transactional relationship to your self-worth, as without consistent transactions validating your worth, you will begin to develop unconscious feelings of worthlessness. Creating an unconscious narrative that for me to be good enough to feel valuable and worthy within myself, I must constantly see results and external validation, or I am not worthy of feeling good about who I am in life.

How I Found Out The Cost Of Building My Worth On Transactions…

Personally, this is how I developed my sense of self-worth in my developmental years, that who I was was only as good as the results I got and the value I provided others. This caused within me a sense of self-worth that who I was as a person was not good enough unless I constantly provided value to others and consistently got results in everything I did in life. This led me to feel utterly worthless as myself, leading me to hide who I was to become the person I thought others would validate and the person who needed results to feel good about myself. I saw myself as being less than others unless I was undeniably better than them, as the only way I knew how to develop my worth was based on ego, and I was always in competition unconsciously with those around me.

This led to developing unhealthy relationships with others and to feeling that I had to sacrifice what I wanted in life, as I did not believe I deserved my dreams in life. Unless I was superior to others, which also led to unhealthy attachments within relationships and friendships, which fueled the negative feedback loop that created the feelings of not being good enough in who I was. I created codependent relationships that were based on what I gave to others, as I did not feel that who I was was worthy of love and respect.

So I created unconscious beliefs within myself that my worth only existed if I provided value to others, which unintentionally attracted people who only valued me for what they got from me, not people who liked me for me. But also, it led me to not understand my worth in relationships, always feeling less than others, so I created negative environments where I sacrificed my sense of self for others in fear of them leaving me. I saw myself unconsciously as worthless and not deserving of being treated with respect or love, leading me to accept less than I knew I deserved in life, and it was this action that fueled my feelings of worthlessness within myself.

This is the true cost of transactional worth within self, the creation of an environment where who you are is determined by what you provide to others and that you are not deserving of living the life you have always dreamed of. The belief that I need others to value me for me to feel valuable, over the truth that others will only ever see the value in me that I see within myself, creates an environment within myself that who I am is based upon the opinions of others, and I should accept less than I deserve in life.

How Self-Worth Is Built And How A Transactional Mindset Will Destroy It…

Building self-worth within yourself is a process of redefining how you value yourself and through creating reflection practices to alter the way you perceive yourself. By altering the meaning of worth within yourself, you rediscover the power you hold to determine the value within you, and this allows you to now work on developing internal worth absent from external validation. As the current external need for validation is the transactional nature, which is eroding how you see yourself and the importance you place on your internal worthiness, without the need to provide value to others to be worthy of feeling valuable within yourself.

It is only by disconnecting your worth from external aspects of life that you can start to build your worth internally, as being an aspect of who you are in life unconditionally, without the need to prove your worthiness to yourself. You are worthy because of who you are, not because you have done anything of worth. By developing this approach to your self-worth, you will start to identify your worth with the essence of who you are. Which gives you the ability to create your identity as someone who is intrinsically worthy of love, respect and everything you have ever dreamed of, which in turn allows you to develop a belief that you deserve love, respect and everything you dream of in life.

How To Build Self-Worth…

Building self-worth internally is a process of seeing yourself as valuable and valuing who you are without the need for you to measure your worth in comparison to others or external validation. This form of worth within self is an unshakable and unbreakable aspect of self, as it becomes an empowering feedback loop. Because I see myself as valuable, as I am valuable, which in turn increases my belief in the value I feel within myself, and this reinforces the feeling of being valuable.

Through this positive feedback loop, you are reconditioning your unconscious mind to believe so powerfully in your value that the worth you feel within yourself becomes the power that demands you give more in your pursuits of all you desire in life, and this leads you to giving more of yourself to get what you deserve in life. This process creates such a positive reinforcement within yourself that you can be, do and have anything that you dream of in life, which then leads you to feeling worthy of everything you have ever dreamed of in life and that who you are is worthy of this.

Throughout this process, you are altering your perception of self, which in turn alters how others perceive you, which enhances the feelings of being worthy within yourself. As the feedback loop internally becomes so strong that others unconsciously believe you are someone who is worthy through how you value who you are when speaking, making decisions and taking actions towards your dreams in life.

Simply put, to value your worth within yourself is just a conscious process of choosing to see yourself unconditionally worthy and then creating positive and empowering narratives and beliefs to create self-efficacy within your actions. If you create an unshakeable belief in your worth, you will begin the process of building your worth through each thought you have, each word you speak, each decision you make and every action you take.

This will lead you to unconsciously removing the negative mindset that requires you to achieve external results and validation before it is willing to allow you to feel worthy of feeling valuable within yourself.

The Transactional Trap: How Your Unconscious Mind Erodes Your Conscious Wants…

The trap of transactional thinking is that it requires the result to be achieved before allowing you to feel the positive emotions, which means that while trying to achieve the results, you must fight through an unrelenting wave of negative emotions. This is the cause for self-sabotage within your desire to develop worth within yourself, as unconsciously, you believe that I am only worthy of feeling valuable after I have achieved my goal. Which means that you are fighting yourself to reach the goal, you are the resistance within the process and eroding each gain you make along your path.

As there is no other in this world with the power you hold for self-destruction, knowing every weak spot and personal insecurity to leverage against you. This is why the unconditional belief within yourself of your worth and value needs to be developed internally prior to setting out on your path. For if you allow yourself to require external validation prior to allowing yourself to feel worthy within yourself unconditionally, you will drag yourself down into the depths of worthlessness each step that you take towards your goal.

You will become the aspect of self who compares your progress to others for validation, you will seek the results over the journey, and most importantly, you will not believe yourself after achieving your goal. You will keep pulling yourself back down into the depths of worthlessness and personal insecurity, constantly needing external validation to maintain your feelings of worthiness in life.

This is the trap of the transactional mindset that it requires constant validation and proof of worthiness to feel worthy, and self-worth is a result of external validation and only exists within the moment of others validating you, eroding shortly after the words are spoken.

How Your Transactional Actions Alter Your Perception Of Self-Love…

A transactional approach to self in life will unconsciously create a belief structure that I am only worthy of the results I get and the value I provide to others. This is a recipe for disaster when it comes to the development of self-love and how you show love to yourself. As in essence, you are creating a belief structure that reinforces to your unconscious mind that love is not unconditional and only exists within the conditions of feeling worthy of love through actions or outcomes.

This alters the meaning of love within your life, now not being an unconditional aspect of self and now becoming an outcome of conditional actions, which, without being met, means I don't deserve love. The transactional aspect of love, especially self-love, is that love is not an unconditional aspect of who I am; now love is an outcome of what I do in life, some actions mean I am worthy of love, while other actions mean I do not deserve love to be shown to me. It is vital to understand that the principle of how I treat myself is a reflection of how I treat others, and how I treat others will determine how I treat myself.

Which means, should I hold a transactional belief that my self-love is based on external validation and outcomes of actions, I will unconsciously measure myself against others in love and life. Always comparing myself to others, this means that I will not seek unconditional love within life. As it conflicts with my unconscious internal belief that love is earned, not given freely, my relationships will unintentionally follow this belief structure. Creating an environment where relationships are based on what I get out of them and not based on who the other person is, which will lead to loveless relationships and unhealthy attachments within love.

This is why developing healthy self-love based upon unconditional love, not transactional love, is essential for personal growth within yourself, as it is the foundation for how you perceive love within yourself.

Developing Your Protocol For Unshakeable Internal Worth…

It's important for yourself and your future growth to develop a healthy and unshakable protocol of internal worth within yourself. As this protocol will become the positive feedback loop that builds your internal worth, unconsciously creating an unshakable mindset of worthiness and self-value within your conscious and unconscious minds. Which will become the aspect of your self-identity founded in an unconditional understanding that you are worthy of love, respect and everything you have ever dreamed of in this life.

This protocol will become the foundation for your identity based on unconditional love and worth within self, which will help you in showing that same love and with to others. It will create over time such a powerful feedback loop that you create a loop of self-efficacy which reinforces your self-worth, self-value and self-love, which will become the fuel to your fire of success within life, pushing you to reach your full potential and true self along the way. Your internal protocol for developing unshakeable worth within yourself is a simple process of refocusing your worth internally and unconditionally.

It is a choice to believe you are worthy without the need for external results or external validation. A choice to believe that you are worthy because you are the one who determines your worth, and you have chosen to see yourself as being worthy of love, respect and everything you have ever dreamed of in life. Through your conscious decision to create the belief within yourself that who you are is what makes you worthy, not what you do, you start the process of reconditioning your unconscious belief structures and narratives.

With this new and powerful belief that who you are makes you worthy, not because of anything you have done, but because you are choosing to see yourself are unconditionally worthy of love, respect and everything you have ever dreamed of. As there is no condition other than your willingness to believe you are worthy that will ever make you worthy within life to feel valuable and loved within yourself. This is the protocol that will create an unshakeable belief in your internal worth within you and your worthiness of all you have ever dreamed of in life.

The Choice To Develop Unconditional Self-Worth…

Developing unconditional worth within yourself is a choice in life to believe that you are worthy of love, respect and everything you have ever dreamed of in life. It is a choice to believe you are worthy, not because of what you do in life, but because your worth is intrinsically a part of who you are. Simply put, you are worthy of feeling valuable for who you are, not the results or external validation you receive in life, and this belief is the fuel used to develop the unconditional self-worth you feel.

Developing unconditional self-worth or self-value is not dependent on achievement in life; it is a foundation of your internal identity or your identity of self and can only be developed by conscious reconditioning. Through the conscious redefinition of who you are, how you see yourself and how you define your value within yourself, you can reforge your internal worth.

Self-worth is the foundation needed to recreate who you are in life to be someone of high value intrinsically, without the need for external results or validation to prove you are worthy within yourself. This is why understanding the impact of your thoughts, words, decisions and actions on your unconscious belief structures and internal narratives is vital to building your foundation of self-worth to becoming unshakable within yourself.

Why Developing Your Oath For 100% Accountability Is Essential…

Accountability is a vital part of the recreation of self, as without 100% accountability within yourself, you will always become the resistance you experience in life. The resistance you feel when striving to become your dreamself and to create your dream life. Without an accountability oath, you will always fall into the trap of external pressures around the value of you and your unconditional worth within yourself.

An oath of 100% accountability is a reminder that you are 100% accountable to yourself for how you make yourself feel and the impact of your thoughts, words, decisions and actions. This oath is more than just a promise to yourself to be better and treat yourself better in life. It is a reminder in each moment of your life that you are responsible for your value and worth in life, and you are the one who determines who you become in life.

You are the only one who determines your worth and value within this life, as it is your responsibility to yourself to create a positive environment within yourself to forge the most empowered version of you. One who believes unequivocally in your worth, the version of you who sees and honours your internal value unconditionally.

Because you know the power of your thoughts, words, decisions and actions to create the life you have always dreamed of, and you accept the responsibility for how you feel in each moment of life. This oath for 100% accountability is the way in which you worship and honour the self you can become in life if you refuse to accept less than you know you deserve.

Forging Your Future Self Out Of Unconditional Love And Worth…

The future self you have always dreamed of becoming in life exists within you right now as we speak. You have the power within you to create the self you have always dreamed of becoming. It is your responsibility in this life to choose to forge your future self based on the highest potential that exists within you, a potential of unconditional self-love and self-worth, one where you see the value within yourself.

You owe it to yourself to create your identity based on love and worth, rather than forging a person based on ego and fear of how others will perceive you in life. Through your commitment to empowering yourself, you will find the highest potential within yourself, free from fear and insecurities. One where you are 100% secure in the value of you through your willingness to acknowledge your unconditional internal value over the external validation of others. External validation and results may feel secure in the moment of validation, but it will always be a transactional experience of validation, and the true validation is self-validation, the power to give to yourself endlessly.

Internal validation will give you the power to create such powerful unconscious feedback loops of empowerment that will reforge who you thought you were into who you’ve known you always were meant to be. This is the power of forging your future self out of unconditional love and worth. A power to recreate yourself into your highest potential for your greatest future, becoming who you have always dreamed of in this life.

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